“Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.”
There are plenty of difficulties in life. Parenting is hard, but “childering” is harder. Parents usually have some experience in navigating the complex social expectations of the world. Children must gain that experience with each passing day, hopefully with the guidance, support and unconditional love of parents who put their children’s needs ahead of their own.
It is indeed hard to be a parent. I empathize and sympathize with all the parents who feel overwhelmed, who don’t have the resources or support to cope well with these tremendous responsibilities. I know life is hard for you. But trust me, no matter how hard you think you have it, your children have it harder.
Having recently re-read “The curious incident of the dog in the night”, I came to realise how differently our children see the world, and sometimes all the coaching, guiding and teaching we makes this view even more confusing and distorted.
Here are a few quotes to illustrate this:
“Metaphors are lies.”
It can never “rain cats and dogs”!
“I do not like strangers because I do not like people I have never met before. They are hard to understand.”
Why must we be well-mannered to people we don’t know.
“He was asking too many questions and he was asking them too quickly. They were stacking up in my head like loaves in the factory where Uncle Terry works. The factory is a bakery and he operates the slicing machines. And sometimes a slicer is not working fast enough but the bread keeps coming and there is a blockage.
I suffer from overload.
“People say that you always have to tell the truth. But they do not mean this because you are not allowed to tell old people that they are old and you are not allowed to tell people if they smell funny or if a grown-up has made a fart. And you are not allowed to say, ‘I don’t like you,’
Is that rude or the truth?
“… why I like timetables, because they make sure I don’t get lost in time.”
Unity has nailed that one!
“I cared about dogs because they were faithful and honest, and some dogs were cleverer and more interesting than some people.”
People have sometimes let me down and always talk “at” me.
Do adults really have a perfect view of the world?
Till next week