I believe that a sense of entitlement as a growing problem in our culture and relationships?
We all want things. But some people feel they are entitled to whatever it is they want, and they feel they deserve it all now. That can make for very difficult relationships, a lot of disappointment, and never receiving what is most important in life.
Material things are just that—stuff that you can have, wear, or play with. But these things can never take the place of a warm and loving hug when you are feeling down in the dumps. Unfortunately, many people believe that if they get what they want, they won’t feel bad anymore. The truth is that no matter what it is that you get your hands on or are busy doing, the lift you may get from it will last only a little while.
When you are dealing with someone who has entitlement issues, it can make your life a living hell, because no matter what you do or say, such people will never be happy. Nothing will ever be enough. It’s as if there were a hole in their soul that just can’t be filled, and it will make for an unhappy life if the problem continues.
People with entitlement issues have an agenda. They will want to be your friend if you have something they desire.
If you are with someone who feels entitled, or if you have that issue yourself, you need to take a long, hard look at what it is that is driving your desires. Did you or the person you are with come from an underprivileged background and feel you only deserve nice things at this stage in your life? Our personal histories or exposure to the media can let us forget that it is love that is meant to keep us together, not things, toys, or travel to exotic lands.
How do we change an attitude of entitlement?
Begin with owning your behaviour and being realistic about your actions and the impact your behaviour has on others. Other people are not always the problem. We make mistakes and have weaknesses. Without God operating in our lives, our tendency towards self-centeredness grows. So, humble yourself before the Lord and realize without God you are nothing.
Second, be grateful for what you have and the people God has placed in your life. Even those who irritate you are being used to refine and build your character.
Finally, focus on helping others and not just yourself. Get your eyes off you and onto the needs around you. When we do, our attitude changes.
WE MUST BE GRATEFUL FOR WHAT WE HAVE!